4 Ways to Reconnect with Your Partner
When you’ve been in a relationship for a long time, you might experience reaching a point where you and your partner are too comfortable with each other.
This is something no one tells you about romantic relationships but you need to know:
- It’s normal for things to get boring when you’ve been together for too long and it doesn’t necessarily have to be a bad thing
- It’s normal to be in a healthy relationship and still feel lonely
- It’s normal to want to do things without your partner
- It’s normal for feelings to evolve
One way you know you’re growing as a couple is when you can share comfortable silence with one another and when you can be bored together as well.
However, it’s important for you to keep open communication with your partner while respecting their boundaries and setting your own during this phase.
Work with and for each other to embark on the journey to rekindle your spark and reconnect on a spiritual, physical and emotional level.
Remember the instant connection you had with the person you fell in love with and how special it was.
Eventually, more substantial feelings and deeper intimacy replace the novelty of the connection but it doesn’t mean you can’t still feel like that young couple in love again. Work on yourself first to become whole again.
Here are some ways you and your partner can reignite your spirit together.
Try out a new activity
Maybe you and your partner just aren’t putting in more effort anymore. Enroll yourselves to learn a new skill or hobby and share the experience together.
With so many years spent together, you might have run out of firsts, and this is when you get creative.
It’s not important for you to excel at this new activity as long as you enjoy it together.
Plan a vacation
Sometimes you need a reminder that the person you fell in love with is also someone you actually like. Let them know the qualities you like and appreciate about them.
Do this at a romantic getaway that you plan together or if you’re the big gesture type, surprise them!
Take a vacation where you can spend quality time with your partner and enjoy a relaxing and rejuvenating experience.
This is our personal favorite, because you can do this while on vacation too.
Start watching a new series together and enjoy some much needed down time.
It takes commitment and effort to binge-watch a new series and it can surprisingly bring you and your partner closer together.
Small acts of kindness
Most often than not, it’s less about talking about your feelings and more about listening to your partner and acknowledging their needs.
There are little things you can do in your everyday routine that can make them feel heard, for example scheduling an appointment for them, packing their lunch, getting them their favorite snack etc.